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PERSONAL REFLECTION-TAKING ON MY SHADOW
We all conduct
our relationships with other people using our personality. Our personality, however, is made up of various parts, which can
be called sub-personalities or selves. So when we relate with others there are quite a few different selves involved in our
relationships. This is why relationships are never simple or easy. This is why sometimes we feel caring towards our partner
and at other times we want to be cared for; it is why sometimes we admire a quality in our partner tremendously and at other
times we see that same quality as a fault; and why sometimes something our partner does amuses us and at other times that
same action irritates us. The selves which constitute our psyches
include: - Parental selves,
- Child selves,
- Rational selves,
- Emotional selves and many more.
Basically we have - Selves which we identify with and call ‘me’. These are our primary selves.
- Selves that we have repressed, which are our disowned selves.
These disowned selves affect our actions, feelings and relationships as much as our primary selves do. In fact, they
also strongly influence what kind of people we get into relationships with. So it
is important to gain an understanding of who our primary and disowned selves are if you wish to understand and enjoy your
relationships fully and if you wish to be in relationship with the people you actually choose to be in relationship with. Most of us do not ‘really‘ acknowledge our perceived negative
parts of our personality, The Shadow Effect brings to our attention that this part of us, when discovered, acknowledged, and
reflected upon can become some what of a positive piece of our personality. It can and will add facets to our self understanding
that we never considered. And changing this negative to a partial positive, will help us find more happiness in our
own lives. It is so important for each of us
to deal with our personal Shadow, because to change the world we have to take on and transform our collective Shadow. In Jungian
psychology, the Shadow is the part of the unconscious psyche that consists of repressed aspects of the personality those parts
of our unique energies which are seen as weaknesses, shortcomings, or often just our instincts. "Everyone carries a shadow,"
Jung wrote, "and the less it is embodied in the individual's conscious life, the blacker and denser it is." (Jung,
C.G. (1938). "Psychology and Religion." In CW 11: Psychology and Religion: West and East. P.131) According to Jung, since our ego cannot acknowledge the energy and perceptions
of the shadow, we project it out onto someone else, turning our own feelings of inadequacy into someone else's (or another
nation's) moral failings, all the while acting out those very traits unconsciously ourselves. And yet, once we do accept our
shadow and integrate it into our personality, it brings us new creativity and energy.
Thou shalt not misuse meThese people "claim"
to be my friends, but ONLY contact me when they need something. This one guy talks to me, acts all nice, but truly doesn't
care, and always ends up going "can I borrow some money?" It's always about that and when I say no, it's like "okay."
I mean, I know the obvious answer is to cut these people out of your life, and I always thought that people would grow out
of this or change, but these are adult men that act that way.
Drawing
near to God requires an effective solution for shame or we will always stay away. This is true whether you feel shame because
of sin or because you just feel dirty and don't know why. You need to understand why you can trust the power of what
God already did for you on the inside. You also need to understand the power of His provision for
cleansing your whole self so that you can draw near to God without shame because of your humanity.
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Who am I?
That the Lord of all the earth,
Would care
to know my name,
Would care to feel my hurt.
Who am I?
That the bright and morning star,
Would choose
to light the way,
For my ever wondering heart.
Not because of who I am.
But because of what you've
done.
Not because of what I've done.
But because of who you are.
Chorus:
I am a flower quickly
fading,
Here today and gone tomorrow.
A wave tossed in the ocean,
A vapor in the wind.
Still you hear
me when I'm calling,
Lord you catch me when I'm falling,
And you told me who I am.
I am yours.
I am
yours.
Who am I?
That the eyes that see my sin
Would look on me with love
And watch me rise
again
Who am I?
That the voice that calm the sea,
Would call out through the rain,
And calm the storm
in me.
Not because of who I am.
But because what of youve done.
Not because of what I've done.
But because of who you are.
Chorus:
I am a flower quickly fading,
Here today and gone tomorrow.
A wave tossed in the ocean,
A vapor in the wind.
Still you hear me when I'm calling,
Lord you catch
me when I'm falling,
And you told me who I am.
I am yours.
Not because of who I am.
But because
of what you've done.
Not because of what I've done.
But because of who you are.
Chorus:
I am
a flower quickly fading,
Here today and gone tomorrow.
A wave tossed in the ocean,
A vapor in the wind.
Still you hear me when I'm calling,
Lord you catch me when I'm falling,
You told me who I am.
I am
yours.
I am yours.
Whom shall I fear?
Whom shall I fear?
'Cuz I am yours.
I am yours.
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