Getting the Best out of the Worst

There are two kinds of circumstances:

Those I can change: There are difficult stages in our life where we usually we do not know how to deal with them and thus we enter a vicious cycle of inactivity, low energy and bad mood. How can I change my life to overcome these bad phases? You can change your life by changing small everyday things that can make a big difference though! From the moment you stop to have a dependency on your perfection, life seems simpler and more enjoyable. You achieve nothing by blaming yourselves constantly and charging you of impotence. You achieve nothing by setting goals, which are unrealistic and then try to meet them, something that is not feasible. Your perfectionism, your persistence to be the first, best, most successful, most beautiful can only cause suffering, because there is always the better. Try to see life in a more relaxed manner and be honest with yourself and less tough. Change you way of thinking and you will be able to change your life.Instead of blaming other people and situations why just not laugh with them? This small change would be enormous in terms of your mood. The humor and self-sarcasms is good for your health! Remember that laughter makes people live longer and makes our life more beautiful and can help you find happiness in your everyday life. It also strengthens our immune system while providing a shield of protection for heart and migraines. Do not always blame other people for your own inefficiencies and unwillingness to make a big step and change your life.We have learned to live our lives in crazy and lunatic paces. The whole time we are busy with something and forget to rest and relax. Many times we are exhausted but we have no time to relax. It is therefore important to care about ourselves, and find some time to relax and sleep well, to devote time to do the things we like and we are grateful and not to fill our lives with endless obligations. We have the right to rest and spend out time pleasantly. Life is not just a job … so relax without remorse. If you want to change your life you first have to find some time to plan for the change and organize your next steps.
Those I can’t change but I wish I could: these present the problem. One of the things that I feel that I've struggled with has been the whole accepting the things I cannot change. Rationally I know the importance of this acceptance but I have struggled to take that rational thought and put it to use in my life. That was until I heard myself telling my son "you do what you can, the very best that you can, and that is all you can do". Boom! How simple. But could it truly be that simple to accept the things I cannot change? What I've come to realize over the past week or so is that depending upon the situation you are faced with, it is to be expected that you are going to struggle over the possibility of whether or not you can change something. There are some cut and dry type things like due to an unexpected expense, like your car needing work, you find yourself with a very small budget for the week. Out of this very small budget you need to be able to get gas and feed your family. There isn't anything you can do about the money you find yourself with for the week. That is the part of the equation that you cannot change. What you can do is to do your very best to spend that money wisely until you find yourself in a better situation money wise.Learning how to accept the things that cannot be changed can be difficult and quite painful. But we can:

Be strong and hold on! Understand things happen to everyone of us. Many of them are beyond our control. Whatever the situation may be, God has a way of giving us the courage we need to face whatever the giant is we are facing in our life.
Grieve then give yourself time to heal. Be sensitive to your own needs. It's okay to feel pain and grieve. Don't hold it in or try to tuck it away, as though it never happened, for it will do more harm than good and will not go away. Instead, it will deepen and worsen, as it results in a destructive pattern in your life. There is a time for mourning, but there is also a time to release the pain.
Pray. Prayer changes things. Never underestimate the power of prayer! The Lord has taken all the dark yesterdays of my life and is making them as though they never were. He is so awesome and will do for you what He has done for me. So, pray, pray and pray - don't stop, until you have your answer.
Refrain from blaming ourselves. We all have battles, challenges and in many cases horrible situations you feel could have been prevented with the “ifs”. We may start blaming ourselves for the many actions of others and start thinking if we had have .... or .... they would not have done what was done. But in reality, they were the ones with the problem, and they were miserable in their own self. It took us a long time to realize it was not us - but them.
Make a adamant choice to die to the thing(s) that seek to control your emotions and life. In other words, choose to let it go by not thinking on the thing(s) or situation(s). When we constantly think and meditate on the pain and/or negative situation, we will begin to feel heavy in heart, depressed and caught up in a cycle that will grow with intensity and not stop until it devours and destroys us, our life and everything around us.
Train yourself. We must discipline ourselves to become positive and do things we are not used to doing. We will have what we speak, so we must be careful of the things we allow ourselves to think and speak. The battle begins within our minds – we need to be diligent to guard it carefully so our mouth will not speak with negativity. We need to train our mouth to speak good and positive things, and if we alleviate the negative from our mind, we won't speak the negative. We are what we think, and renewing our minds by washing out the negative will transform us with a positive impact on us and others in our lives.
Find a new hobby or niche. We should be afraid to try something different and new to discover and unleash the new us.