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We live in a notoriously violent society! Under the influence
of Satan, people hurt, maim and kill fellow humans with impunity. "How unthinkable!" you may answer. "Never!"
Yet millions of seemingly harmless people hurt end even kill their neighbors every day. Their instrument of violence is not
steely switchblade. It's the tongue!
"The hypocrite with his mouth destroys his neighbor," says Bible
verse Proverbs 11:9. Whether the gossip is premeditated or accidental, murder is murder. And when you're dead, you're dead.
Yes, words ---- in the form of gossip ---- can hurt you and other people. But gossip can be stopped! Let's learn
how to prevent this deadly crime. Gossip accuses people.
It charges others with wrong. People love to talk about the alleged actions of others. Does the following sound familiar?
"Did you hear what he did?" "No ---- tell me!" "Well, just between you and me, he..." and on
and on it goes.
Listen to what God says about gossiping accusers: "An ungodly man digs up evil, and it is
on his lips like a burning fire (Bible verse Proverbs 16:27). What happens to the victim of accusations? These accusers ----
this lynch mob of tongues ---- charge him, convict him and condemn him to death! Accusation is deadly gossip.
Gossip
slanders neighbor. It destroys a person's character or personal reputation. But beware! He who lives by the sword of slander
shall die by the sword of slander. Almighty God says, "Whoever secretly slanders his neighbor, him I will destroy"
(Bible verse Psalm 101:5).
Gossip talks indiscreetly. People who say just anything that comes into their minds
spread gossip. They do not engage their minds before they engage their tongues. They do not evaluate what they are about to
say or its effect on others. "A serpent may bite when it is not charmed; the babbler is no different" (Bible verse
Ecclesiastes 10:11).
In short, gossip is any communication that hurts people. "The words of a talebearer [a
gossiper!] are as wounds, and they go down into the innermost parts of the belly" (Bible verse Proverbs 18:8), King James
Version.)
Satan started gossip. Jesus Christ said, "He was a murderer from the beginning" (John 8:44).
Satan probably used gossip to assassinate God in the eyes of one third of the angels, causing them to rebel (Bible verse Revelation
12:4). Jesus also revealed that Satan is a lying slanderer: "For he is a liar and the father of it" (Bible verse
John 8:4).
Satan accuses both God and humans today through unsuspecting people. He is called the "accuser
of our brethren" ---- of God's begotten children in His Church (Bible verse Revelation 12:10).
Listen as Jude
describes the gossiping nature of Satan and his demons ---- and people who follow Satan's way: "Likewise also these dreamers
defile the flesh, reject authority, and speak evil of dignitaries... But these speak evil of whatever they know naturally,
like brute beasts, in these things they corrupt themselves" (Bible verses Jude 8-10).
Yes, Satan is the source
of gossip. Do not allow Satan to whisper in your ear.People
gossip for many ---- all of them wrong ---- reasons. For example, people of low self-esteem tend to gossip. They do not respect
themselves, so they gossip about others and pull them down. This allows their own egos to rise on the ruins of others'. The
gossiper experiences a temporary illusion of worth, but quickly descends even lower than before. He or she then yearns to
gossip again, aching to experience another high. But down he or she goes again. Some people are addicted to gossip just as
much as some others are addicted to drugs.
Frustration produces gossipers, too. You can't have everything you want.
Perhaps you are dissatisfied with your situation in life. You hunger and thirst for satisfaction. So what do you do? Well,
some people eat, eat, eat, desperately desiring to devour their frustrations away. Others talk, talk, talk and devour their
neighbors away. After gossiping they feel better ---- for a little while. Then reality hits them again and the addictive cycle
of frustration and gossip starts all over again.
Idleness breeds gossip. People who are idle with their hands tend
to be active with their tongues. Paul comments: "And besides they learn to be idle, wandering about from house to house,
and not only idle but also gossips and busybodies, saying things which they ought not" (Bible verse I Timothy 5:13).
No one wants to be a gossip addict, destroying those around. Can the addiction
be cured? Can gossip be stopped? Yes ---- here's how! - First, realize how much God hates gossip. Gossip-related sins appear three times on God's
"hit list" of the six most abominable things He hates: "A lying tongue... a false witness who speaks lies,
and one who sows discord among brethren" (Bible verses Proverbs 6:17-19). God hates to see His children hurting one another.
Yet He sees some of us day in and day out destroying one another with gossip. He wants a cease-fire of the tongues. God wants
you to have the same attitude He has against gossip. So the first step toward stopping gossip is to hate it, because it hurts
people. Once you come to hate gossip, then...
- Repent
of gossip. Perhaps you don't think about this as often as you should, but gossip is sin. Almighty God thunders in
His Ninth Commandment, "You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor" (Bible verse Exodus 20:16). A main
thrust of this commandment focuses on the harm done to one's neighbor by the types of accusation and slander that make up
gossip. James explains: "Do not speak evil of one another, brethren. He who speaks evil of a brother and judges his brother,
speaks evil of the law and judges the law. But if you judge the law, you are not a doer of the law but a judge" (Bible
verse James 4:11). Gossiping is bearing false witness, and that brings the death penalty (Bible verse Romans 6:23). So realize
that gossip is sin. Repent and determine never to gossip again.
- Realize the source. As we saw earlier, Satan originated gossip. No Christian wants to be
an instrument of the devil. Yet when you gossip you are being used by Satan. He not only started gossip, he now perpetuates
it through humans (Bible verse Ephesians 2:2). The next time you are tempted to gossip, think about the source and bite your
tongue.
- Don't listen. Not only
should you repent of gossiping, you should stop listening to gossip. Don't fool yourself. Just as it takes two to tango, it
takes two to gossip ---- one to talk and one to listen. Gossip would stop instantly if everyone would stop listening. It's
no fun gossiping to yourself! Listen to John's instruction: "If anyone comes to you and does not bring this doctrine,
do not receive him into your house nor greet him; for he who greets him shares in his evil deeds" (Bible verses II John
10-11). Just listening to gossip makes you an accomplice. If anyone comes to you with gossip, do not listen. As gently and
tactfully as possible, tell the person that the subject matter does not concern you and you'd rather not discuss it. Be as
firm as necessary. The person will quickly get the message ---- and the gossiping will stop.
- Detect gossip. To stop gossip, you must recognize it. But how? God has
provided you with a gossip-detection system. Let's take a look at that system, described in Bible verse Philippians 4:8. The
first criteria for proper communication is that it be true. You should not listen to or say anything that is not
true. In fact, you or the person telling you should be able to prove that it is true. "Prove all things; hold fast that
which is good" ( I Thessalonians 5:21, KJV). If it can't be proven, it shouldn't be listened to or spoken of. But what
if it is true? Should you get involved? Not unless it's noble. The information should not in any way tarnish the
character, name or reputation of another person. Any hint of disrespect should set off an alarm in your mind that shouts "Gossip!"
Paul goes even further by declaring that the information must be just. This means you should not discuss or listen
to discussions about the sins of others. "For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God," says Bible verse
Romans 3:23. "He who covers a transgression seeks love, but he who repeats a matter separates the best of friends"
(Bible verse Proverbs 17:9). Another important part of our gossip detection system is purity. The words must be pure.
In our sick society, blasphemy and profanity almost have become proper etiquette. "Their throat is an open tomb... whose
mouth is full of cursing and bitterness" (Bible verses Proverbs 3:13-14). God does not want His people listening to or
spreading dirty words or stories. Keep your ears and mouth pure. Accept only lovely things into your mind ---- things
that effect you and others in a positive, uplifting way. Make sure the words you speak and hear are of good report.
Bad news bombards us constantly. Human nature seems to thrive on bad news. "For their heart devises violence, and their
lips talk of troublemaking" (Bible verse Proverbs 24:2). Paul tells us to avoid bad reports. Use the gossip detectors
of truth, honor, righteousness, purity, loveliness and good reports to stop gossip.
- Speak to edify. In the same Bible verse 8 of Philippians 4, Paul says that
we should speak words of virtue. Virtuous words are words of excellence and value, words that produce good fruits,
that build up the speaker, listener and everyone else. Speak words of praise ---- words that praise the great works
of God. Talk about His great creation in all of his wonderful glory. Talk about God's Work on earth today ---- the Work that's
spreading the good news of the Kingdom of God. Speak words of praise about the good in other people. Encourage others to do
their best. Comfort other people when they are discouraged. In short, use your tongue to bring life ---- not death! So work
to stop this heinous crime!
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