Our culture seem to view all things, including family relationships, as disposable and temporary. Under the popular philosophical system of utilitarianism, the highest good appears to what works for me now. Thus people, fall in and out of "love". They slip in and out of relationships almost as often as they change clothing styles. This is not good for families or society. Certainly this is not what God intended when he ordained marriage. We must remember that marriage was God's idea, not man's. It is clear that God hates divorce. He is a covenant making, covenant keeping God. It is also true that despite hating divorce, God made allowance for it. When questioned by the religious leaders of His day, Jesus explained that God allowed divorce because of the "hardness" of men's hearts.

Divorce is hurtful, even the most civilized and "friendly" divorce. When a man and woman marry, they become one. There is a blending of body with soul and spirit. By entering into the marriage covenant, each of the independent and separate persons together become a new person. Spiritually, divorce is a severance, a destruction of that new person. The Bible describes divorce as a violent act. In short, there is a price to pay by separating through divorce what God and man joined together in marriage. It is important for us to contemplate the cost each party to a divorce must bear, and hence it is necessary for us to consider following Biblical principals in our difficult situations.