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Developing Myself
The lesson that
stands out for me is that true nobility is not about being better than anyone else -- it's about being better than you
used to be." Dr.
Wayne W. Dyer
HOW TO DEVELOP MYSELF
The road to being happier and more successful is not easy. Over the years, I have read many books and tried numerous
techniques with varying results. The one constant thing I have observed when I have been successful in personal development
is incremental change - the act of taking baby steps and building upon each victory one at a time. I think deep down each of us has a desire to
be better than we are. Maybe you wish you could be a more efficient worker, better husband, healthier etc. Some of us may
even have read a few personal development books in the hope of learning secrets to be successful. For the others, this desire
is just that - a wish that was never acted upon. Others
have been too afraid to try. What if I failed? Perhaps I did try, but the techniques did not work or the results were disappointing.
However, whatever my goal is and irrespective of whether I tried or not, the following universal truths apply:
Things
worth attaining takes time: Personal development is not something that
can be rushed. After all, you are trying to change what’s core about you. Breaking bad habits and instigating good patterns
is not an easy thing to do. Developing new fundamental character traits will take some time, lots of patience and hard work
to succeed.
When the student is ready, the teacher will appear:There may be techniques, which did not work in the past, but do now. They did not work before because one was not
ready for them. Do not be discouraged. It is how the universe works. So as you become a more disciplined person or your perseverance
improves,So as you become a more disciplined person or your perseverance improves, techniques which did not work before can
suddenly produce spectacular results.
Build upon each success: Personal development is a journey. Each of us has a different journey. Our goals are different. Our backgrounds
are different. The environment and circumstances surrounding our lives are different. The thing about personal development
is we build upon each success. Every victory lays the foundation for the next challenge.
Continual process of learning: Do
not expect to go from zero to hero in an instant. Take each challenge as a lesson, then build upon each lesson to constantly
refine who you are, what you do and how you do it.
Don’t be discouraged with setbacks:
When things go well, you feel happy. However, the flip side of this is when things don’t go well, you feel sad. The
reality is you cannot win all the time. There will be occasions in which you just cannot accomplish a goal. Perhaps, you are
too tired because of your work commitments. Perhaps, you are distracted by other things like planning a wedding. Perhaps,
you are feeling down and cannot summon the motivation. Whatever the reasons may be, do not be discouraged with setbacks. The
most important thing to keep in mind is telling yourself you will try harder next time. So you’ve missed a morning by
not rising early. Big deal, just try harder the next morning. Setbacks are ok, but continual setbacks are not. Do what you
can to ensure you do not get trapped in a negative pattern or repeated setbacks.
Not all things work for
everyone: Each of us is inherently different. Some techniques may not work for you for various
reasons. There are the reasons, such as not being ready for them or not having the prerequisites to ensure success or such
as trying to apply techniques that just go against your nature or are not congruent with your goals. For example, if you are
constrained by health issues, then perhaps stress is not something you wish to deal with. This may require you to live in
a relatively stress free environment and being busy and constantly productive may not be the best thing for you health-wise.
Celebrate your victories: Your mind is a complex but powerful tool. Motivation, which describes a genuine desire to accomplish something,
can be fleeting and temporary. Use as many tools as you can to maintain it. When you lose your motivation, you lose your reason
to try and overcome adversity. Remember that things worth attaining take time, lots of patience and hard work. Celebrate your
victories whenever you can. You are working hard for a reason. It is just human nature that we do difficult
things only for a reason. So take moments even during the day to observe and enjoy the results of your hard work and use this
as a platform to newer and more ambitious goals.
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